Cosmopolitan Magazine has a nifty column that provides relationship advice to women from the perspective of a man called Ask A Guy. A most recent column featured the question of a reader wanting to know whether a guy was interested in her.
While, the inner workings of the male psyche may be a mystery to women, situations such as these are often self explanatory. It doesn't take a guy or even your girlfriends to tell you that he doesn't like you. The odds are if you have to ask, he probably just isn't that into you to paraphrase Greg Behrendt.
In case your many years of reading Cosmopolitan Magazine, has not helped with your relationship knowledge, below are a few tips for discerning your would be paramours interest.
He Has Not Called You
If you gave him your telephone number, your email address, your pager number and you have not heard from him, he does not wish to speak with you. No matter how often you pick up the telephone to check the dial tone, as long as the phone bill has been paid everything is in working order. If spam continues to clutter your inbox, but no love not from your would be sweetie, your email is fine, he just hasn't hit the send button.
You Must Always Call Him
This tip is an addendum to the aforementioned tip. If whenever you call he says that he is busy and, he didn't have time to call you read the writing on the wall. There are 24 hours in a day, and if a man is interested he will make time to call you. If it's at work, before, in the car before work, or in bed before he goes to sleep at night. Trust and believe that if he is really into you, there is nothing sweeter than the sound of your voice at any time of the day.
If you have called and left a message or two, or ten, and he has not returned your call, assume that he doesn't know what a catch you are and simply move on.
He Has Not Mentioned Commitment
Unfortunately, many women make the mistake of becoming intimate with a man in hopes of turning a physical relationship into a more permanent and serious endeavor. If the word commitment has not been mentioned, take it as an indication that it has not been discussed for a reason.
The best thing to do would be to take some time, and learn from the experience. Read Cosmopolitan, hang out with friends, go to the gym. In short, anything but call him. That 2 months wasted on him, is 2 months that you will never get back. It is also a time when you could be meeting the real man of your dreams. |
